so once you get your goal structure set 00:00:04
so once you get your goal structure set up you think okay if I could have this 00:00:07
life it looks like that might be worth 00:00:08
living despite the fact that it's gonna 00:00:11
be you know anxiety provoking and 00:00:12
threatening and there's going to be some 00:00:15
suffering and loss involved in all of 00:00:16
that obviously the goal is to have a 00:00:17
vision for your life such that all 00:00:20
things considered that justifies your 00:00:23
effort okay so then what do you do well 00:00:26
then then you turn down to the micro 00:00:29
routines it's like okay well this is 00:00:31
what I'm aiming for how does that 00:00:32
instantiate itself day to day week to 00:00:34
week month to month and that's where 00:00:37
something like a schedule can be 00:00:39
unbelievably useful Google Calendar it's 00:00:40
like make a damn schedule and stick to 00:00:43
it 00:00:45
okay so what's the rule with the 00:00:45
schedule it's not a bloody prison that's 00:00:47
the first thing that people do wrong is 00:00:50
well I don't like to have follow a 00:00:52
schedule it's like well what kind of 00:00:53
schedule are you setting up well I 00:00:55
should I have to do this then I have to 00:00:57
do this then I have to do this you know 00:00:58
and then I just go play video games 00:01:00
because who wants to do all these things 00:01:02
that I have to do it's like wrong set 00:01:03
the damn schedule up so that you have 00:01:06
the day you want that's the trick it's 00:01:08
like okay I've got tomorrow if I was 00:01:11
gonna set it up so it was the best 00:01:13
possible day I could have practically 00:01:14
speaking what would it look like well 00:01:18
then you schedule that and obviously 00:01:21
there's a bit of responsibility that's 00:01:22
gonna go along with that because if you 00:01:24
have any sense one of the things that 00:01:25
you're going to insist upon is that at 00:01:28
the end of the day you're not in worse 00:01:29
shape than you were then then at the 00:01:31
beginning of the day right that's a 00:01:33
stupid day if you have a bunch of those 00:01:35
in a row you just dig you know you dig 00:01:37
yourself a hole and then you bury 00:01:39
yourself and it's like sorry that's just 00:01:40
not a good strategy it's a bad strategy 00:01:42
so maybe 20% of your day has to be 00:01:45
responsibility and obligation or maybe 00:01:48
it's more than that depending on how far 00:01:50
behind you are but even that you can you 00:01:51
can ask yourself okay well I've got 00:01:54
these responsibilities I have to 00:01:56
schedule the damn things in what's the 00:01:57
right ratio of responsibility to reward 00:02:00
and you can ask yourself that just like 00:02:02
you'd negotiate with someone who is 00:02:04
working for you it's like okay you got 00:02:06
work tomorrow okay so I want you to work 00:02:07
tomorrow and you might say okay well 00:02:10
what are you gonna do for me 00:02:11
that makes it likely that I'll work for 00:02:13
you well you could ask yourself that you 00:02:15
know maybe you do an hour of 00:02:17
responsibility and then you play a video 00:02:20
game for 15 minutes I don't know 00:02:22
whatever turns your crank man but you 00:02:23
know you have to negotiate with yourself 00:02:25
and not tyrannize yourself like you're 00:02:28
negotiating with someone that you care 00:02:30
for that you would like to be productive 00:02:32
and have a good life and and that's how 00:02:34
you make the schedule it's like and then 00:02:36
you look at the day and you think well 00:02:38
if I had that day that'd be good great 00:02:39
you know and you you're useless and 00:02:42
horrible so you'll probably only hit it 00:02:44
with about 70% accuracy but that beats 00:02:45
the hell out of zero right and if you 00:02:48
hit it even with 50% accuracy another 00:02:50
rule is well aim for 51% the next week 00:02:53
or 50 and a half percent for God's sake 00:02:56
or because you're gonna hit that 00:02:59
position where things start to loop back 00:03:01
positively and spiral you upward and so 00:03:03
so that's one way that you can work on 00:03:07
your conscientiousness is a plan of life 00:03:09
you'd like to have and and you do that 00:03:11
partly by referring to social norms 00:03:14
that's more or less rescuing your father 00:03:17
from the belly of the whale but the way 00:03:19
other way you do that is by having a 00:03:21
little conversation with yourself about 00:03:22
as if you don't really know who you are 00:03:24
because you know what you're like you 00:03:27
won't do what you're told you won't do 00:03:28
what you tell yourself to do you must 00:03:30
have noticed that it's like you're a bad 00:03:32
employee and a worse boss and both of 00:03:34
those work you know for you you don't 00:03:37
know what you want to do and then when 00:03:40
you tell yourself what to do you don't 00:03:41
do it anyway so you should fire yourself 00:03:42
and find someone else to beat but but 00:03:44
you know my point is is that you have to 00:03:47
understand that you're not your own 00:03:49
servant so to speak you're someone that 00:03:51
you have to negotiate with and that's 00:03:52
and you're someone that you want to 00:03:54
present the opportunity of having a good 00:03:57
life to and that's hard for people 00:03:59
because they don't like themselves very 00:04:01
much so you know they're always like 00:04:02
cracking the whip and then 00:04:05
procrastinating and cracking the whip 00:04:06
and then procrastinating and it's like 00:04:08
god it's so boring and such a pathetic 00:04:09
way of spending your time and you know 00:04:12
what that's like because you probably 00:04:14
waste like six hours a day and I think 00:04:15
we get an economic calculation about 00:04:17
that a while back right your time is 00:04:19
probably worth 50 bucks an hour 00:04:20
something like that I mean you're not 00:04:22
getting paid that now but you're young 00:04:24
and 00:04:26
this is investment time and what you do 00:04:27
now is going to multiply its effects in 00:04:29
the future so so let's say it's 50 bucks 00:04:31
an hour which is perfectly reasonable so 00:04:33
if you weigh 6 hours a day and you are 00:04:35
then you're wasting about $2,000 a week 00:04:37
or about $100,000 a year so like go 00:04:39
ahead but that's what it's costing you 00:04:42
every hour and you need to know what 00:04:44
your damn time is worth so let's say 00:04:45
it's not 50 bucks it's 30 whatever maybe 00:04:47
it's a hundred it's somewhere in that 00:04:50
range one of the things you should be 00:04:52
asking yourself is when you spend an 00:04:54
hour was that well what if I paid 00:04:56
someone 50 bucks to have had that hour 00:04:58
and if the answer is no it's like well 00:05:00
maybe you should do something else with 00:05:02
your time and it depends on whether or 00:05:04
not you think that your time is worth 00:05:06
while but the funny thing about not 00:05:07
assuming that is if you assume your time 00:05:09
isn't worthwhile what happens is you 00:05:11
don't just sit around sort of randomly 00:05:14
in a state of responsibility list bliss 00:05:15