So what does it mean for this symbol to emerge from 00:00:01
- the feminine symbols let's say - 00:00:03
to emerge from chaos, well 00:00:05
this picture - this is a picture of venus, 00:00:07
the goddess of love 00:00:09
right 00:00:11
and so I cut this picture out of a larger picture 00:00:11
and it's venus manifesting herself in a transcendent space 00:00:14
in the sky 00:00:17
in the same way that christ did in the previous representation 00:00:18
and she has rays coming off her 00:00:21
and there's all these men who are knights 00:00:23
kneeling in front of the image 00:00:26
but what does that mean? 00:00:28
well it means that men use the image of female perfection 00:00:30
to motivate themselves 00:00:34
and that's exactly right 00:00:35
it's precisely what they do! 00:00:37
you see that in the Tom Sawyer story 00:00:38
so Tom Sawyer is about twelve years old 00:00:40
and he's still hanging around with his friends 00:00:42
Like Huck Finn 00:00:44
and this girl moves across the street, 00:00:45
Becky 00:00:47
and she comes out and he's struck by her 00:00:47
for the first time in his life something's changed 00:00:49
and the first thing he does is hop up on a picket fence 00:00:51
and show off and balance in front of her 00:00:54
and say well "Look at me! Look at me!" 00:00:57
He's like the male bowerbird 00:00:59
building something beautiful so the female will approve of it 00:01:01
it's motivation! 00:01:04
you know, and that's something that 00:01:05
I think modern women don't really understand 00:01:07
about men 00:01:10
they don't understand that... 00:01:11
at least to the degree that males are uncorrupted 00:01:13
and not bitter because of being rejected 00:01:16
they're doing everything they can to kneel before the eternal image of the feminine 00:01:18
and try to make themselves worthy 00:01:24
that's the chivalry story, right? 00:01:26
that's what you should encourage in your partner 00:01:29
and so out of chaos emerges this first form 00:01:32
it's the feminine form 00:01:35
it's partly the form that represents novelty as such 00:01:36
and on one hand it's promise and on the other hand it's threat 00:01:41
you wouldn't believe - and I don't know 00:01:45
I don't understand the situation with women 00:01:47
as well I understand the situation with men 00:01:50
obviously, being a man 00:01:52
but I cough 00:01:54
I don't know if women have any idea 00:01:55
how paralyzing they are to - especially - young men 00:01:57
cough 00:02:01
a large - very large - number of 00:02:03
my clinical clients, but also young men I've talked to in general 00:02:05
are absolutely terrified of women 00:02:08
because they're terrified of being rejected 00:02:11
and the terror exists in precise proportion to their attraction to the woman! 00:02:12
which is a horrible paradoxical situation to be in 00:02:18
it's often why men make such fools of themselves 00:02:21
in front of women that they're attracted to 00:02:24
it's because first of all they don't see the woman that they're attracted to 00:02:26
cause what the hell do they know about her? 00:02:29
they don't see her as an individual, 00:02:31
they see her as the manifestation of a judgemental ideal 00:02:33
and then it's only in establishing the relationship 00:02:36
with the actual woman 00:02:40
that they can start differentiating 00:02:41
between the judgemental ideal and the actual, individual woman 00:02:42
and that also requires a sacrifice 00:02:46
and the sacrifice is... 00:02:48
you never can have an ideal woman 00:02:51
so to have a relationship with any woman 00:02:54
you have to sacrifice the relationship with the ideal woman 00:02:57
and you have to see the individual woman... 00:03:00
and separate her from the ideal 00:03:03
and that's the same thing that happens to the hero in Sleeping Beauty 00:03:05
right, he sees the evil queen 00:03:09
who actually turns into the Dragon of Chaos 00:03:11
and it's not until he can 00:03:13
defeat her, that he 00:03:16
can establish a relationship with the actual princess 00:03:18
and that's exactly the case 00:03:20
I had a - one of my clients 00:03:22
who ran this men's group 00:03:25
which is quite interesting 00:03:26
one of the things they had initiates... 00:03:27
do, which was very intelligent, 00:03:31
was to go out and ask 50 women in one day for their phone numbers 00:03:33
why? 00:03:38
Politely! Properly! You know, 00:03:39
it wasn't a - it was a game but 00:03:41
it wasn't a stupid game! 00:03:42
and the idea was 00:03:44
Get over your fear of rejection! 00:03:45
and how do you do that? 00:03:47
by encountering it continually 00:03:49
and continually, and continually 00:03:51