I love my child I love my mother so much 00:00:00

I love my child I love my mother so much that I couldn't survive if anything 00:00:04

happened to them it's like you have some 00:00:06

serious thinking to do about that it's 00:00:09

like you really want to curse someone 00:00:12

with that kind of love do you I couldn't 00:00:13

live without you it's like my god get 00:00:15

away from me 00:00:19

really it's terrible that's the eatable 00:00:20

mother right that's like I'll forgive 00:00:23

you no matter what you do it's like 00:00:26

really you no matter what I do eh 00:00:27

you are not my friend that's for sure 00:00:30

not at all it's a horrible thing to do 00:00:33

to someone that's that's the witch in 00:00:36

the Hansel and Gretel story all 00:00:39

gingerbread and outside to the lost kid 00:00:42

inside you feed them candy and make them 00:00:44

fat and eat them right that's Hansel and 00:00:47

Gretel that's the eatable mother that's 00:00:50

one of Freud's major discoveries it gets 00:00:52

a major discovery it's like the 00:00:54

devouring force of love you want the 00:00:56

person to be able to stand on their own 00:00:59

and price you pay for that is that you 00:01:01

stand on your own it's like good to have 00:01:02

you around I'm glad you're here but if 00:01:05

if tragedies win and if and when tragedy 00:01:08

strikes either of us I hope that one of 00:01:11

us is standing when it blows past and 00:01:13

and that there's a harshness about that 00:01:15

that's unbelievably cruel because you 00:01:18

know you say well if my mother died I 00:01:20

could live well what kind of monster are 00:01:21

you exactly 00:01:24

death of your mother doesn't do you in 00:01:25

well turns out that being a monster is 00:01:27

the right thing so and that's a rough 00:01:29

thing to learn but it's necessary to 00:01:33

learn you know because it also makes you 00:01:36

you know at some point for example as 00:01:38

you get older mm-hmm 00:01:40

by the time you're in your mid-20s 00:01:41

something like that you should start 00:01:43

having a relationship with your parents 00:01:47

that's approximately one of peers and 00:01:48

you can tell if you have that so here's 00:01:51

a little trick you can use so you have 00:01:54

parents obviously they have friends you 00:01:56

probably care what your parents think I 00:01:58

would imagine do you care what their 00:02:00

friends think of you and answer that is 00:02:01

well not nearly as much and so then I 00:02:04

would say well why do you care what your 00:02:06

parents think of you then they're the 00:02:07

same people you know what I mean it's 00:02:09

just luck of the draw that you're 00:02:11

parents or someone else's kids friends 00:02:13

they don't think the same way about them 00:02:16

that you do that's where you see that 00:02:18

you have a projection right if by the 00:02:19

time you're 30 if what your parents 00:02:21

think of you matters more than what say 00:02:23

a random set of their friends think of 00:02:25

you then you've still got your parents 00:02:27

confused with with God that's one way of 00:02:29

looking at it you've still got them 00:02:31

confused with an archetype and you're 00:02:33

still a child and you might think well 00:02:35

it's pretty damn rude not to think about 00:02:37

what your parents think of you anymore 00:02:38

not to care it's like yeah it's kind of 00:02:39

rude but maybe you'll be useful for them 00:02:42

when they get old and that's a much 00:02:43

better form of caring it's like you're 00:02:46

going to be independent enough and 00:02:48

strong enough and and detached enough so 00:02:49

that when the taught when the when the 00:02:52

power dynamic shifts which it will that 00:02:54

you'll be the person that can carry 00:02:58

things forward well you can't do a 00:03:00

better thing for them than that right 00:03:02

that's the best of all possible outcomes 00:03:04

for your parents 00:03:05